To Freshman Year

One of my continuous goals in life is to be able to make a positive impact on someone's life. Whether that's being there for someone when they least expect it, being a genuine person, being a good friend, or just being a reason for someone to smile or laugh, it makes my heart happy knowing that I have the ability to make even the smallest difference.

Since this school year has come to a close, I've been thinking about the impact others have made on me this past year. Emotionally, the year had its rough moments. There were times I felt alone even though I knew I had people in my life that cared, and there were times I couldn't find a reason to smile or even search for something to be happy about. However, I don't want to focus on those moments because there were many more high moments than there were low points. I know I am only done with a quarter of my time here at U of I, but I've already met so many new people, learned so many new things, and experienced so much more than I would've ever imagined 9 months ago.

Before I start listing a timeline from this year, I want to note that if you are reading this, know that I appreciate even our smallest interactions. Whether that was a few seconds of a conversation,  a shared inside joke, or just a smile and a wave, I'm glad we met. Sometimes those small gestures make a really big difference in my day, so thank you.

Now to the two people I met in the bathroom during orientation, I'm thankful you guys were my first friends in college. I will miss our crazy moments in your guys' room. I will treasure the memory of finding your I-card under your bed. I will miss our silly talks about boys, and us laughing like maniacs for no reason.

To the Lynbrook classmates that also attend University of Illinois, you are the people who make me feel the comfort of home even though we are so many states away. It's been comforting seeing your faces around campus, even if it was only for a glimpse. I'm happy we can see each other accomplish many things and progress over the next 3 years. We will always look out for each other, even from a distance, no matter where life takes us. Once Vikings, always Vikings.

To the teammates that life has placed in my life, thank you or sharing a passion for ice skating with me this past season. I can't wait for more wild nights and insane road trips. I'm thankful that I'm able to experience a new aspect of the sport even beyond my high school years. You guys have all become more than teammates, but friends I know I can count on with other aspects in life. We may have a diverse range of personalities, but one thing for sure is that we're all weirdos and I love that about team. I promise I'll work on making it to morning practices on time, haha.

To the peeps of Weston, Ike, and the 6-pack, I'll miss seeing all of us gather at the Ike to study late at night or meet at the couches to swipe in for meals (when we do, of course). I'll miss the all-nighters leading up to Ike breakfast, and the 57 food rampages. Even the daily encounters and small talks in the bathrooms and the familiarity of freshman faces at the commons will be missed. I will still be around the 6 pack next year (go Nugent?), but many of us will be dispersed amongst the apartments around campus. I've enjoyed the people I've met because of the dorm communities, and I hope we'll still cross paths in the future.

To social media and everyone I'm connected to because of it... thanks for the group message flames, the silent Skype calls to keep my company, the hilarious gifs, the gateway to keeping in touch with high school buddies, and the few moments of fame on the campus story. I will treasure these memories, always.

To the few who have been there to listen and to share your thoughts, your advice, and your experiences. You have taught me to learn from the past and to be proud of who I am now but to continue to grow in the future. I really do take what you guys say to heart, and I appreciate the raw openness of the conversations we've had, and I can't thank you enough.

To the people who helped me experience many firsts, thank you for sharing a life experience with me, and a being there for a few (or many) moments of my college journey. It's during these adventurous days and nights when I really participate in the beauty of life. Thank you for opening my eyes to different perspectives, and for helping me grow more as an individual.

With a few more years left of our time at U of I, I hope we continue to grow and learn from each other. I'm appreciative of all that I've learned this year, and I'm excited to see where life takes us with the semesters to come. Congrats to all 2016 graduates. Best of luck in the real world. :-)

Freshman year at University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign

I-L-L, I-N-I.
Shan

February Thoughts

Life is about experiencing new things, taking risks, being bold, and making connections with other people. College is a very good place for all of those things to happen, but I feel like a lot of people do those things without having much thought behind it besides "having fun." I'm not saying that everything needs to be taken seriously all the time, but I believe in the meaningful memories created even during those temporary, brief moments in a conversation held with a stranger or during the times we step out of our comfort zones.

I've got 3 years and part of a semester left of my time in my undergrad life, and I want to make the most out of it. Time is going to fly by, and life is only going to get busier. This means that I need to stop overanalyzing so many aspects of my life, and just live a little. One of my teammates told me something I really like. She said "regrets aren't made, they are lived." I don't think this means to just disregard everything and go do things that I know I won't be proud of, but I interpret it as a way to follow my gut sometimes and be open-minded to change of perspectives and thoughts. Knowing myself and how I reflect, self-evaluate, and analyze every situation a lot through detailed emotional dissection, that isn't always a good thing. If being scared of making a regret is the only thing holding me back, then it's not quite worth it. My morals and values are still with me and will be with me for the rest of my life, but some tweaks here and there will help me grow more as a person.

I shouldn't be so afraid to try new things. Whether that is trying out a new class, finding a part-time job, going on a date, or going out with my friends and teammates. There are so many things in life that have a gray-scale but are only perceived as black and white because of the broad generalizations and the negative stigma created by society. As long as I take responsibility for myself and own up to decisions I make, sometimes experiencing something firsthand is the best way to make a personal judgment on it.

I am not trying to tell people how to live their life because they can do whatever they want without caring about what others will think, but to put more value in a connection made with someone even during a brief interaction can make a difference in the lifestyle of college and create a more genuine and real bond between people. There are many definitions of  what a "value" is, and there are confounding factors involved with everything I've been saying, but these are just the main thoughts that have been clouding my mind lately. If it doesn't make much sense, I apologize. This is still a work in progress.

Talk soon,
Shan

1st Week of College on the Cornfields

I've been on campus for six days now, and the first day of college starts today. I have a lot going through my head, and I am not sure I'm going to be able to articulate the emotions and feelings that I'm experiencing, but I'll try.

The day before move-in day, I was freaking out. I had never been in Illinois before, not to mention being on the gigantic campus. I only knew that there would be a lot of corn, and that the winter time would be harsh. I didn't know if I'd feel like home here, or if I'd like that it was kind of in the middle of nowhere.

The last week has gone way above my expectations and it has been filled with new adventures, new friends (yes, I'm actually making new friends!), and the start of independence of living on my own.

I am loving being a student at the University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign. The diversity is real, and the people are friendly. I feel like I am part of a true community, not just a person looking in from the outside. The school spirit is deafening, and I feel proud to be walking on the campus as a student here. The college town is beautiful, and I am loving seeing green grass instead of brown grass all around campus. The weather is perfect for me (until September that is). I know the winter is going to get brutal, but for now I'm just appreciating the California weather over here. It actually might even be better than Cali weather. There's been a nice breeze going through every day, and even when there are overcast skies, the temperature is still warm enough that I can go out in shorts and a sleeveless shirt.

I have been spotting my high school classmates often, and it makes me happy to be able to re-unite with them, even if it's only for a couple minutes. I'm also enjoying trying new things, exploring, and making new connections with people that grew up in completely different states and have very different backgrounds. I'm learning that we have much more in common than we think we do, especially with the sense of humor I have.

There are a lot of amazing restaurants and PMT spots on Green St., and the food I eat are walked off every time I need to get somewhere by feet. The campus is huge, so I've been walking at least 10,000 steps a day. I don't see the need to go to the gym anymore. Being a student, I am realizing how many discounts we get and I am happy to take 'em. Free admission into a lot of events, discounts on food or store items, and not needing to pay to ride the buses (that's a definite must) or cheap admission into the skating rink makes the college tuition a little more worth it, that is... if I actually get out of my dorm to explore what's out there. I've eaten a lot of free meals, gotten free t-shirts, attended grad night-like events (the LateNighter), and attended my first service event here (we painted the outside building walls at "Salt & Light Ministries
- check them out: http://www.saltandlightministry.org/). There are always a large number of people at each event, because the school is so big. This is nice because it is guaranteed that I will meet people with the same passion and interest I have for something. There are so many other things I can do on campus including bowling, rock-climbing, beach volleyball, watch performances at the Krannert Hall, go to poster sales, attend open mics, or attend mixers and block parties. I don't ever have to worry that I'm the one person out of super small group of people interested in going to an event.

The #1 question I've been getting from people here is, "Why pick Illinois over California?"

I tell them I want to put myself out there, and really experience life as much as I can the next four years. If I don't like it, I can move back. This entire four-year journey is a rare chance, because I'd never come to Urbana-Champaign just as a tourist, or to "sight-see" the corn fields. Even if I only visit a friend for a few days, it wouldn't compare to experience as really living on campus and being a part of the student community here. Seeing orange and blue everywhere, the colors are definitely growing on me more and more each day. I'm bleeding blue and orange, and I haven't even taken my first test yet or met my classmates of the semester.

Yes, Illinois is the #1 party school (people go "trick-or-treating" at night often - if you don't get it, it's okay. It's my own term, haha). But Illinois is also the #1 community I'm glad to be a part of. Most of the 43,603 students on campus are strangers to me, but people are friendly, they are looking out for me, and we are all in this together. Most of the people I talked to this past week, I probably will never see again, but I think there's beauty in that. They may influence me and make a difference without even knowing it. The only thing really bringing us together is our identity with the U of I (I've been getting used to calling it that more, instead of UIUC or saying the full name like I did back home).

Besides a service program, an Asian American club, and ice skating, I might also join a religious group. I went to a Christian fellowship group last night, and I was surprised I got myself there somehow. I haven't been to church consistently in a couple years, and I've been on and off with my faith because I feel that it's too complicated for me to deal with and I have too many questions to figure it out. I'll keep an open mind, and we'll see where this goes.

My dorm is starting to feel like my home (and I'm actually staying pretty neat/organized...for now), and I can shout, "I-N-I," pretty confidently when I hear someone say "I-L-L." The next four years on this campus, in the college town, is going to be the best yet and I really want to take advantage of it. I want to go to events, try new things, meet new people every day. The only thing is that I hope I keep my word to that so I don't let the four years fly by with only stressful and routine days. I am so thankful I have the opportunity to experience college life like this, and the independence factor is frightening but exhilarating. I'm eventually going to have to be fully responsible for myself, and college is definitely a good transition. After college, the career starts (hopefully) and things get real. I'm sure the experience will be rewarding too, but for now I think college is the perfect balance between independence/responsibility, and fun/exploration.

I love this college town, and I can't wait to make the most out of the next four years I have here. I am excited to see how this journey shapes and moves me, and I hope I learn to enjoy everything that happens, positive and negative. This orientation week has gone by way to fast, and I can't believe my first day of college classes start today.

There are so many "nooks" on campus I'm excited to discover throughout the next four years, and too many restaurants I want to try out.

I don't know if I said everything I wanted to say, but I think I got a good chunk of it out of my system. I'm gonna head off to class soon, so see ya!

Best of luck to the upcoming school year,
Shan

P.S- I'm missing all of my friends and family back home! It's weird saying "back home," because I feel like I'm only a couple miles away at some summer camp.  You can look forward to another post from me soon, because I'll probably write another post when reality hits me and I start feeling really homesick.

P.P.S- If you're interested in seeing my daily life on campus through pictures, here's a link to the site: https://shanillini.wordpress.com/ It's a project that is part of my ART105 class, Visual Design for non-majors. I'm having a fun start, but I'm also up so late because of this, haha.